Stop-Self-Sabotaging

I’m not ready to speak in front an audience of an audience.”

“I don’t have anything to say that other people will find  interesting.”

“Others will see right through me and realize I don’t know what I’m talking about.”

Can you relate to any of these? I know that I’ve said this to myself, until I realize what I was doing. I was mentally and physically sabotaging my own business success by allowing negative thoughts to creep in and  prevent me from moving forward in my business. It seems like I always had an excuse, as to why I couldn’t do something.

So how did I stop self sabotaging myself when it came to my business?

First I had to become self aware, that I was filling my head with this negative talk. Self awareness is the first step needed to be able to move forward and to prevent it from continuing. Once I understood what I was doing, and why I was doing it,  was only then I was able to make necessary changes to my life. 

Self help books helped shifted my focus in the right direction, but ultimately I ended up getting a coach that help me the rest of the way. And help me to get pass the negative self talk that was holding me back for so long.

That’s my story, and how I was able to move forward successfully with my business. But don’t take my word for it, I’ve reach out to 7 women entrepreneurs who shared their advice to help you get pass the negative talk that you might have and stop self-sabotaging your business success today.

  • Hold yourself accountable.

“ Stop self sabotage by holding yourself accountable. Do a Daily Review What worked. What didn’t. What’s next. 3 questions at the end of the day. Take 15 minutes and answer those questions. It creates a Journal that will keep you out of denial. It is action oriented.”

– Cynthia Howard Founder of  www.vibrantradianthealth.com

  1. You are the only person in charge of your success.

9 out of 10 entrepreneurs fail for two main reasons:

1) They let fear decide what they should do.

2) They don’t see the big picture.

When I ask my potential clients where they see themselves in the next 5 or 10 years, they usually look at me as though I was some kind of monster.

Early in my career, I learnt to:

– Celebrate every little victory;
– Get out of my comfort zone daily; and
– Never compare myself to others.

You are the only person in charge of your success. No one else can do it for you”

– Cendrine Maurrouat CEO http://cendrinemarrouat.com

  • Self sabotage isn’t always deliberate.

“I think it’s important to do a brand audit every month.

Personally, I spend so much time promoting and engaging on social media that my personal thoughts get mixed w/ branding. I want to comment on every social topic that comes up but I have to keep in mind what my mission and purpose is.

Self-sabotage isn’t always deliberate. In this instance, it’s a slow disease that destroys our branding or business.

-Stephanie Flores Owner of  @FocuOnYou

  • Don’t undervalue your worth.

Know exactly how much you need to make each month (taxes, all business expenses, and a comfortable salary).

Then calculate your hourly rate (this number will scare the heck out of you because you can only count billable hours).
Charge more than your estimated rate!
Women are especially prone to undervaluing their work, which undermines every aspect of our businesses.

Cristen Iris Founder of http://cristeniris.com

  • Pick an idea and stick to it!

My advice is to pick a business idea and stick with it! It is going to take so much longer than you think and/or want to find success. Success will not happen if you constantly chase the shiny objects or next cool thing that you hear about. Stay focused and believe in your plan

-Renee Groskreutz Founder of  http://iteachblogging.com

  • Comparison is a deadly enemy.

Comparison is a deadly enemy. As women we are especially guilty of deciding we are not qualified because we don’t “look like-talk like-sell like-think like” HER (whoever she is.)
I did a series of short videos about getting your S.E.LF. out of the way. Sabotage comes from a practice of throwing wooden shoes into machinery to stop progress as a form of protest. When we decide we can’t or won’t be successful because of what we believe we ‘aren’t’, we “throw our shoes” into the wheels of progress.

Be your amazing, wonderful, original self; not an imitation of someone else.

-Donna Woolam – CEO of  http://donnawoolam.com/mindset-moments

  • Invest in a Mentor.

We try to do it all alone and expect our families to be supportive and cheer us on. But what we really need is a group of friends and a mentor or coach who also have their own businesses. Investing in a mentor or coach is in an investment in yourself.

Don’t put it off. Put yourself first. As you grow and elevate so will your business. My work is all about knowing yourself better, loving yourself more, self care and transformation.

-Angelika Peacock-Kearse Owner of www.facebook.com/goddessangelika

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